Thursday, October 10, 2013
What's Love Got To Do With It
We all have something to say when it comes to the topic of intimate relationships - from break-ups and make-ups to cheating scandals and marriage proposals. In the documentary How Will We Love, filmmaker and composer Chris Brickler explores the human experience of romantic love, its challenges and what it takes to sustain a long-term commitment. Add to this conversation by sharing your insights about this film.
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I thought the documentary was absolutely beautiful. I feel like it made all my feelings that I hold in come out. Not only did I enjoy watching everyone's happiness, but I enjoyed the fact that it answered many questions to personal relationships I might have with individuals. It explained the pro's and con's of love which I thought was perfect. I now have a clearer image of what to think when it comes to that topic.
ReplyDelete“How Will We Love” is an excellent documentary on love and all the challenges that we face day a day when we are in a relationship or want one. The part that moved me the most was seeing those old couples of 60 or even more years of marriage, making me realize that it is possible to have a successful relationship. Nowadays it is easy to get a divorce and separate if the things don’t work out, but after watching this documentary I am sure that it is worth if fighting to keep a relationship, it may not be easy, but if there is love it is valuable. No one said it was going to be easy... One day, when I find the right person to have a relationship, I will give my all to keep it, if it is what makes me happy, because my biggest dream is to get older beside someone that can make me smile each day no matter the obstacles. Maybe one day I will be like that old couple with a 60-year-old marriage. At the end we can all find love, but the hard thing is to know how to keep it.
ReplyDelete"How Will We Love" is a beautiful document on how people fall in love and what you have to do to keep the love alive. What touches me is how the old couple that been married for 60 years and still the love is stronger than ever. It terrifies me on how many people fall in love gets married and don't even last or how you love someone so much but they don't feel the same way back. I would not like to go through depression and not waiting to be loved by somebody special again. It teaches me that love is not easy to find but once you find the person to live your life with, you will do anything to keep the relationship.
ReplyDelete"How Will We Love" is a nice, but no too much realistic documentary. The documentary shows how people fall in love and what people have to do to keep the love alive for many, many years. The marriages that appear in the documentary are most of them very happy and still in love with the other person. For example, the old marriage that have been married for 60 years, are very nice, but unfortunately those marriages are the fewer cases. Because of our times and our society most of the marriages now end in divorce in a few years. People now are most concentrate in our own lifes than in sharing with others. A relationship requires a lot of time and dedication, and people do not have time for it or they do not want to invest that necessary time in a relationship. Despite all this the documentary is pretty good.
ReplyDeleteThe documentary "How Will We Love" was an excellent example of how we have all evolved, specially when it comes to relationships. Premarital sex was frowned upon literally less than fifty years ago, now it's almost naive to believe that people wait until marriage before they have sex. The documentary really shows that being in a relationship takes work from both parties, and this continuous effort can be very rewarding in the long run. No one that has been married for a long time will tell you that their journey together was smooth sailing, there are always going to be bumps along the way. I really enjoyed watching the love some people had over each other, specially the author's grand parents. It reminded me of my grandparents and it was very touching.
ReplyDeleteThis documentary is actually really interesting. I'm not the type of person who gets interested in films like "How Will We Love", but I can really relate to it. Many of the situations that film talks about happens in and around my life. I guess love is one of the strongest things that exist in the universe and can cause ourselves to change and fell different. In some thing I might have to disagree, such as gay marriage, but I guess that's just people choice.
ReplyDeleteGreat film though.
Wow. This is really speaking to all the people who have asked the same question; "How will we love?" Not only is it inspirational but it's also the most detailed analysis on the love phenomenon. Personally i'm a really private person, so most of my questions are not shared, they're just kept inside. However, thanks to this video I was able to get some answers.
ReplyDeleteRoselaine Catilus
ReplyDelete"How Will We Love?" is a touching documentary on love. The meaning of love has changed over the years. Back than couples, would stay in love for quite longer than the ones who are in love today. A hundred years ago, your husband or wife would die and nowadays married couples get divorced. Rather than to, just try to work things out. But in today's society, married couples are together longer because we're living longer. It also shows what we have to do to keep our love alive. Today their's a different mindset. The couple that was married for 60 or more years give me hope and faith in my relationship. I feel if they can do it, than so can I. Once I get married, I'll be married forever; there's not going to be any divorces, my husband and I will work everything out no matter what. The price of divorce is very expensive! Men won't commit, they love cheating nowadays. This documentary also tells that in order to have a future or be in a relationship, you have to talk and trust one another. Moral of the story is so many are in love, but not together and so many people are together and not in love.
Love is overused and abused. We are not dating to love but instead we are dating to get married, have children, and grow old together.This is what society brainwashes us with. Not everyone is meant to get married, some relationships are perfectly fine just being lovers yet society puts a strain on marriage. My Aunt was married for 43 years before my Uncle passed away in July from liver cancer. My other Aunt is married to a man who is barely home. My Mother is a single parent raising four children in a household but supporting two others in a different country. In this documentary I question love, I have been hurt by my first love and it took me a while to move on. It does hurt to care about someone so much and your world just comes crashing down. I am scared to end up like my Mother and Aunts. We all experience love differently, it writes our own path. How will we love ? I have a big heart, I am not loving to get married, have children, and grow old together. I am loving to have someone to share memories, laughter, tears, and walk this journey called life with. This documentary has really help me to justify love, why people get hurt and how relationships last. I do not care if I get married or have children, I just want to experience the true definition of love.
ReplyDeleteGiorgio Riccobono
ReplyDeleteMy grandparents have been married for almost fifty years; my grandfather passed away a couple of weeks before the big date. My parents got married in 1982. Just writing this two things make me wonder what I am going to do. Now-a-day be in a relationship it is such a hard thing. Everybody wants its own freedom and nobody wants to deal with the commitment to share emotions, times, and feelings. Couples are such an hard thing to study today. Looking at my situation I can easily say that I was lucky because I grow up with serenity, I have never seen them fighting. More than that, I also always had my grandparents close to me. I think that is why a lot of couple do not work recently. Everybody has problem when is single, try to imagine when you are in a pair. If you not had strong values from your parents, it is more probably that you are going to have issues in the future. Over that, new generations do not know the word "limit". Every time you reach something you want to try to get something more. I understand that in your work career, but it is supposed that when you get marry you should take care of your wife, and not to take care about every single girl who smiles to you. That is to me the biggest problem today. Everybody wants more. And when that happens to a couple, it is automatic that the couple does not get along anymore. Even if my situation looks like the one from the perfect family in the fairy tales, I do not really believe in love. I do not think people can love each other forever. I do not believe anybody can love with no conditions. But I do respect and listen who does. I remember asking to my dad: "how long have you been married?" He replied "28 years now". I do remember then asking "do you remember the happiest moment of your life?" He used to say "Twenty-seven years ago! Smiling at my mom" I do not know what is their secrets, but I am sure they do not have any. They just respect and trust each other.
This was a very insightful documentary. I unfortunately did not have the successful marriage. I did not make the effort to work things out, and seeing this makes me realize that it truly takes a lot for a marriage to last. My parents were also divorced as were my grandparents from both sides. I wonder if that had anything to do with it, as they say, "we lead by example". From personal experience and seeing some of my married friends, I feel that today many married couples have issues but choose to stay married even if they are unhappy and eventually things work out or they stay together just out of habit.
ReplyDeletekatherine Quijano
ReplyDeleteThis documentary is really interesting in the way that is trying to find a reason who to maintain a long relationship between spouses. I think that any relationship has to be based on communication. Communication is a must in any relationship because it will help the couple understand each other. They also will learn how to express feelings, emotions and ideas. This means that any time that the couple has an argument, instead of fighting and hurting his/her feelings they can have nice conversation and tog ether as a couple they can find a solution to any disagreement that they could be facing. In my case I have been in a relationship for over 10 years with the same person and believe every day that spends with him I learn something new of him. My mother used to say “you will never know this person until you marry it” I think is true but we as human, we are in a constantly development and we are surrender by different thing each day that can lead us to change just little. This is why I don’t agree with my mom’s words because even if I marry with this person, I will never be able to know this person. However, I can learn of this person each day by having a good communication with him. I think the good communications that we have, is why I still dating this person. Another important factor that has to be in any relationship is trust and respect. I think trust and to respect go hand to hand of each other because it cannot be trust without respect and vice versa. Also if we don’t have good communication skills with this person we cannot have a relationship base on trust and respect.
I believe that this documentary was an amazing view at marriage, so as to show the single and upcoming marriage’s what it really takes to be married and the serious commitment it takes. Our generation has taken marriage as joke, and do not understand it all, but with help from Chris Brickler that was made a little better to understand. This should be a documentary that dating and soon to be married couples should watch together. I have been married for 7 years now and I would not change it for the world because I enjoy spending time with my wife, but not all days are always easy. As long as there is enough love thou you can get past your arguments.
ReplyDeleteThis film is very helpful for people who are in a relationship. It opens your eyes to what goes one in other relationships, and it could be going on in yours. We all can relate to what goes on in their relationship. I believe what the Dr. said about a NEW family that two people go live together and they get tired and board of each. He said we're not like the old family were the parents and grandparents all live together and the relationship happens to last longer. i like were the conflict is brought up. i hate dealing with it and i know when its coming. i know if i told my girlfriend that i was going out with my friends she would give me an attitude and maybe an argument. Whatever problems there are we don't run from them, we just talk it out and i believe thats what makes a healthy relationship. Everyone should take a look at this film, it will help them better their relationship skills
ReplyDeleteFaimie M.
ReplyDeleteThis documentary is meaningful it explorers different human experience with romantic love and how its a challenge for long term commitments now a days. I love the couple that been married for 68 years they're true inspiration of a successful marriage that is full of love, trust, and mutual respect. I agree with the pastor and his wife everything they said is true these days people don't take time to get to know a person before they jump into bed with them. Maybe if people were careful when choosing a partner there wouldn't be so many heartaches. Marriage is a sacred bond that isn't something that should be taking lighty before anybody jump into a romantic relationship that may lead to marriage take the time to get to know the person to save you headaches in the long run.
This documentary explored all the aspects of relationships. It demonstrated the young, the old and people who got a second chance at love. I think when it comes to love everyone has their own way of thinking it will work and this documentary put that into place. Some, no matter how old, will always put their out their for someone who might not deserve it. While others found the "love of their life" and stuck with that person forever. It shows how we've evolved when it comes to love and how we will keep changing because our environment. Seeing all these different kinds of love at different stages demonstrates that their is not one universal way to love but rather a personalized manner of love for everyone
ReplyDeleteThis documentary speaks the whole truth and nothing but the truth about the way everyone get the wrong impression of what love really is but this the society we live in and it'll never change...life goes on.
ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed this documentary, it had a unique approach to exploring the human experience with love. It was interesting to see that people have different views and opinions about what love is and how to maintain meaningful, loving relationships with other people. I feel a lot of people develop this idea of what love is and as they get older, whether that idea be right or wrong, they stick with it. I personally agree with what the pastor had to say about marriage and love. Marriage is such a special thing, a sacred bond that should be between you and someone you love. Obviously there are going to be some bumpy roads in the relationship but marriage means sticking with that person and doing everything in your power to get through those times.
ReplyDelete"How Will We Love" was a little boring for my tastes but I think it provided a good source of much needed information for some people. I agree with most of it except what was said about sex being only between those who love each other, let alone as something meant only for marriage. As a young male in college I intend to enjoy myself as much as possible. Personally, I couldn't care less if I get married or not. In my family there are only a few couples that have lasted. So essentially what I've been taught is that marriage isn't all that important. I do believe in commitment and faithfulness though, they are fundamental in a relationship that you wish to last.
ReplyDeleteDavid R.