Ivy League sketch comedy group Harvard Sailing Team takes on relationships issues from inverted male and female points of view. Not forgetting this is a comedy sketch, do you think there is any truth to the clip or is it a mere exaggeration? Are there contradictions? Share your thoughts and opinions on relationship conflicts styles and each gender's perspective of the other.
It's definitely an exaggeration but with truth behind it. I believe a lot if not most relationship problems come from lack of communication. One very good trick to avoid arguments or conflicts is too always ask for feedback by doing so you are both in the same page.Be persistent, don't give up when your partner says "I'm fine!" ninety percent of the time they are not.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Eric. If your relationship had been going well for the past lets say couple of months since the two has started. All of a sudden there's an attitude from one partner that is not usually normal, just know there is something somewhere between the that had gone wrong. For example, my girlfriend is usually a very happy person with me. I notice when she become mad or when its something on her mind because she gets too quiet to where we're walking and not talking which is very abnormal because there's always a story that she has to tell me EVERY SINGLE DAY. I ask what's wrong, she says nothing. I say yes there is, she gets very upset and says leave her alone. But yea to get back to the topic, never settle for an answer that you don't often hear from your partner!
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ReplyDeleteThis clip is hilarious but they exaggerated a little too much girls don’t act like that at least not the ones I surround myself with. I think “yeah” and “yes” have the same the meaning but there’s a difference in how you use them. If you’re talking to your parents, an elderly or basically someone with authority you can’t say “yeah” that’s rude you got to be polite, show respect. But if you’re hanging with your friends yeah why not it’s not a big deal, either way they’re the same thing.
Elizabeth Rodriguez
ReplyDeleteI think the idea behind this funny video is on point because men do have more of a problem discussing relationship troubles. Women trust each other to express their confusion with their partner and their concerns. Men on the other hand find it awkward (i.e. that super awkward pat on the back.) This video was pretty exaggerated and made the texting situation into a crisis with the "girls."
Also, I think this video brings forth a funny "unwritten" rules that go with the act of texting. Just saying "K" makes someone think something is wrong, while "Okay" is just okay.
Although this video may be an exaggeration, it must have come from some ounce of truth. With the increasing time we spent on mediated communication, it is easy to let your mind wander and make up all these scenarios where words have more than one meaning and where minutes can define a relationship. It's hard not to let your relationship fall victim to this kind of communication because everyone is doing it. Your best friends will tell you that this text meant that or how could he not have said this and you slowly start to give so much more meaning to mediated conversations. What I do think is great about this video is that through the humor, they send the message out that in today's day and age it can be both males and females who can react like this. Guys will not always be the tough ones and girls will not always be the sensitive ones.
ReplyDeleteHarvard Sailing Team clip was a mere exaggeration but the message is very clear. There is a huge difference between "yeah" and "yes". "Yeah" is direct and blunt but "yes" is conflicting and vague. The biggest problem in relationships is lack of communication. Females are more emotional and males shrug almost everything off. We are too busy trying to get our feelings and thoughts out that we forget to listen. In this clip, their environment is not the right atmosphere to have a serious conversation, both of the partners are having a night out with their friends. Instead of talking face-to-face they are texting, this leaves a big gap for misinterpretations.His friends are contributing their own opinions to the relationship which makes things worst. Her friends are hyping up the break up as if being single is awesome. A way to avoid conflict is by having face-to-face conversations when both partners are ready to talk and listen. I personally never experienced the scene in the clip but I have had problems arise due to texting a serious conversation which escalated more than it had to.
ReplyDeleteThe Harvard Sailing Team clip exaggerated a bit much, but they sort of did tell the truth about how women really act. Men always seems to have trouble with expressing themselves or they just don't care about the situation at all. Women always seems to express their feelings and always care about any and every situation. When they text each other they use certain types of words to express their feelings like ''yes'', ''yeah'', and ''K''. Women seem to get upset when men doesn't text back right away and starts to think something of it. They begin to start questioning their relationship and breaks up with them. The guys always act like they don't care when women break up with them but on the inside they really are hurt. The guy friends always make it worst because they begin to say ''Omg man you are single now'' and they get all excited and happy for him when really he is hurt and depressed about it. Women tends to just bring up their own opinion about the break up and does care about their friend and her problems. But the whole video deals with conflict and how women and men act towards each other during a relationship while around their friends. I believe that if it was more of a face to face conversation I think that it would have been more better than texting because you can see the person face expression and how they really would react. But texting each other will not get the point across as how much women would want. Texting will just make it worst than what it really would be.
ReplyDeleteSome women don’t sit around crying over men like in the video. This is completely an exaggeration. Some woman can obviously see that there’s more fish in the sea and they don’t need to worry about one failed relationship. Men will try to look tough around their friend and act like it doesn't bother them but when they get alone and that lonely feeling starts to settle in they’ll be the first one running back. I’m not saying all men but I've noticed from past experiences they don’t let go as easy as they think the do; some women are better at handling their feelings than some men. So I most definitely think this is very much over done and false.
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I find this video funny but true though. But I think face-to-face expressing feelings to one another is better. Texting can be misunderstanding sometimes and there will be lack of communication. When you are face-to-face there is more you can say and facial expressions will show. You may not get taken serious over text, but you can show that you're serious face-to-face and there will be instant replies... most of the time.
ReplyDeleteI don't consider the video an exaggeration. You need to isolate specific references in the video and consider their validity. As a whole it might appear unrealistic, but I'm sure everyone can think of instances when dialogues portrayed in this video actually happened in their life. In the movie Requiem for a Dream there are various drug related scenario's compiled together based on the authors experiences in poor areas in the bronx. It would be unrealistic to assume the entire story was true, but if you isolate the different scenario's you find that they actually were based on actual events that still take place to this day.
ReplyDeleteThis video was so funny but extremely exaggerated at least the girl part of this video. I have never met a girl who acts like this and has a different meaning to yeah and yes. Being in a relationship of two years now I have learned to understand that there is always a meaning to each word you say but as you get older in the relationship every word has one meaning and one meaning only.
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Michelle Perez
ReplyDeleteThe video was a very creative way to display the way men and women interpret things differently. I would have to say that the video was very accurate because women always tend to over analyze every detail of there significant others and men tend to not put that much thought process behind it. Even though the video was a tad bit over dramatic , the message behind the video was made very clear and i think if done any other way than people would not have appreciated the truth behind the comedy. as a woman myself i feel like it was an accurate perception on how women over analyze everything and how men don't see the meaning behind many things. It was genius to switch the genders and have the opposite parties play one another. By doing that it only made the behavior of what men and woman act and how they are different that much more accurate. like the video displayed, women are more into their emotional side were they are comfortable with expressing their emotions to the people around them. Men on the other hand are not as expressive with their emotions and usually keep to themselves about there issues and the only way they seek help is if they are overwhelmed with their own problems and can not find a solution.
I believe that the video was true and very funny. I think women show feelings more than men, for a couple of reasons. It can sometimes be a feminine emotion that is just too much to handle sometimes. Also, they may trust the people who they are around to show these feelings. The way men are shown is true as well. We don't really discuss how we feel with others because it is unmanly to do so. The reputation is to be held of strong will. Therefor, I agree with the video on almost all of its hidden meanings.
ReplyDeleteAfter watching the clip I think that they show a lot of things that are true, but others that are very exaggerated. For example, I think that it may be true that girls act like that when they are in a relationship, as women we overthink a lot of things and if we have a problem we always have other girl friends that we can talk to, but in the video it is still exaggerated how they show it; I think no girl would do such a drama for a “yes”. In the other hand I do not agree at all with how they portray men, because I have met guys that when they are in a relationship they are the ones that give it all for their girlfriends, are always texting them and are willing to leave anything for them, I also think that men support each other differently than how they show it in the video, but I agree in the part that they usually use humor to help in bad moments. I think that the female’s perspective of men on the clip, is that one of a very carefree and kind of insensitive person that may or may not be affected by what happens in his relationship, but I really think that this depends on each man, there may be some that are like this, however I know there are many guys that are different. And male’s perspective on female, is that of a very exaggerated and kind of dramatic girl that overthinks everything, and even though many times it is real, it is not as excessive as they show it in the video.
ReplyDeleteThis is a comedy so obviously it was exaggerated but there are some great points and truth to this. I believe that it depends on the conversation you are having and also the mood. "Yeah" and "Yes" I never thought about it too much until now but i do use both those words and it doesn't make a huge difference to me but i see where they are coming from because "Yes" is a more serious answer. Clearly the girl in the video was annoyed at first. Also, the "Go have fun with your friends" can go two different ways because you can mean it, and then you could be saying it because it does bother you. Just like the comments above said when someone says they're "fine" usually, they are not.
ReplyDeleteThis clip was very interesting especially when it came to the women and the relationship.I love the idea of switching rolls and the point they where trying to make. Most of the actions that took place where mostly true from my perspective. Judging from my experience in my relations i have had in the past men would act like that depending on certain citations. When it came down to the females i felt that it was a bit over exaggerated with the crying it was more like childish then what an actual group of women would react to that citation. from my experience friends would comfort us by helping us get our mind of by going out and doing something.
ReplyDeleteeverything else seemed legit how the males acted and compared to how the acted and it was pretty hilarious and a really good idea on how they we can relate and see the difference between each other.
Giorgio Riccobono
ReplyDeleteThis video while filled with humor has a negative connotation towards both men and women alike. It most likely represents today’s society and the ridiculous stereotypes placed on groups today. The issue is truly exaggerated; both men and women are guilty of stereotyping because that is what society has taught over the years. It is most likely media that plays the largest part in the negative stereotyping facing males, females, athletes, cultures, etc. In this fast paced, on the go, always in touch world, we live in due in part to smartphones and social media like twitter a speedy response without the knowledge as to what is happening on the other end of the communication is the desire. We live in a society of slang and abbreviated words, so using “yes” instead of “yeah” would most likely be seen offensive instead of the proper use of the word. As an immigrant and someone still learning the English language, I see "yes" as the more polite response to a question versus "yeah" which is more slang and most likely to be used between friends.
By me looking at this video relationships are very important because looking at the elderly couples and just seeing how they can be married for a long time and it makes me wonder what are the younger couples are doing that is not right why can't the younger couples get along like the elderly couples and just try to iron out any disagreements that they may have amongst each other. other thing try and stay away from the Divorce court so much and just talk it out whatever the situations maybe between you and your spouse, and that's what marriage is all about being honest and loyal not treating each other like trash. I would recommend this video for all young couples because this will teach them a lesson about being committed to your husband and wife..... what a great video.
ReplyDeleteI think that this video gives a good general perspective on how each gender sees the other. The video is quite humorous in its execution, but it also involves too many stereotypes, and fails to mention that there are exceptions to every rule. A con of this video is that this style of stereotyping can be seen as offensive and even sexist. However it is still a good video overall and for the most part accurate. It is effective in showing how society perceives females as more emotional than males.
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Katherine Quijano
ReplyDeleteThis video is trying to show as how female or males react to certain things. Even thought that this video is exaggerating how women and men response, we can still see a huge different between them. Women tend to be more emotional and more expressive when they are surrender by people that they trust. On the other hand, men are speechless and unemotional. It seems that men prefer to keep their rude personality at any time and place. In addition, this video is showing us how texting can lead us to many misunderstood. For example, in this case “Yeah” and “yes” seems to have different meanings even thought that both words are use to make an affirmation or to express hesitation. In this video, we see that depending of the situation in which the receiver decodes the message it will be his response or interpretation to the massage. The boy who receives the message seems to be in problems with girlfriend. Consequently, he started to figure out that it might be a problem just because she replay “yes” instant of “yeah, I love you”. I think that a way to avoid this kind of misunderstood we should be able to ask the other person what he meant instant of making crazy speculations of what he meant.
That was a funny video. Definitely over exaggerated but in my opinion the massage they are trying to actually explain is that communication is the easiest way to avoid conflicts. The video stresses the difference between the word yeah and yes. In my opinion, they obviously mean the same thing, but i can see how yes could come out a little more aggressive than yeah. i come to that conclusion because if i picture my self in a situation where I'm upset angry about something and someone asks me a yes or no question, i would probably say answer with a YES or a NO, not a yeah or a nope.
ReplyDeleteI thought this was funny as heck but it is definitely exaggerated. now i'm not saying there isn't any truth to this but i don't think this really happens in real life. if she doesn't respond quickly enough then she is probably busy or trying to come up with something to say. i agree with Eric about the lack of communication problem and that feedback is an excellent way to avoid conflicts in a relationship.
ReplyDeleteThis is definitely exaggerated but it is meant to show the stereotypical perceptions of a man and a woman. However, This does have a little truth behind it. I don't think any girl really acts like that but they are definitely way more open about their feelings than men. They also tend to carry on the same topic in a conversation for a while and exaggerate the truth. Unlike men who just mention something and don't really get into too much depth about it. Of course everyone is different but in general this sketch has a lot of truth behind it.
ReplyDeleteThis is a funny video, but is definitely very exagerated. Probably, is true that men express less feelings than women, or rather in a different way. But is also true that it is not as the video shows.
ReplyDeleteRegarding the problem of media communication is true that many times we make previous assumptions that probably are not true or real. If your boyfriend/girlfriend doesn´t answer your text message in less than a second we assume that he or she is doing something bad. Sometimes we are right with those previous assumptions but, fortunately it is not always like that. So just confidence and patience.
This was awesome! Although it was definitely an exaggeration i see the truth behind it. If theres one thing that I've noticed is that text messaging doesn't let us mature emotionally, instead of talking about our feelings, we hide behind our phones and tell people through written messages. As for the yeah or yes situation, the fact is that both are ok, the real problem is that you can't convey tone over a text message so it could be taken positively or negatively. All in all it was very entertaining but at least from personal experience, i don't think this was that accurate
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This was awesome! Although it was definitely an exaggeration i see the truth behind it. If theres one thing that I've noticed is that text messaging doesn't let us mature emotionally, instead of talking about our feelings, we hide behind our phones and tell people through written messages. As for the yeah or yes situation, the fact is that both are ok, the real problem is that you can't convey tone over a text message so it could be taken positively or negatively. All in all it was very entertaining but at least from personal experience, i don't think this was that accurate
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Karina Lafaurie
ReplyDeleteI thought this video was extremely funny and completely true. What this video is trying to show us is the difference between the way men and women communicate today. Women tend to sit around with their friends drinking wine and talking about their feelings and relationships. While men on the other hand hangout with their boys and do activities with each other to bond but don't really talk about their feelings all that much. This video expresses the two different forms of communication that we humans use perfectly. By this I mean that girls are more open to expressing every emotion but also psycho when it comes to relationships; guys are more kept to themselves but when somethings on their mind that bothers them they mention it in a few words. But I definitely feel like how they portray the behavior of men and women in an exaggerated manner. I have yet to meet a girl who makes such a big deal about their significant other responding with a yeah or yes. But overall I really liked this video, they did a good job.
Although the video was very entertaining and hilarious to watch, it definitely exaggerated. The perception that they gave of how guys and girls act was true, but the way they did it was what through it off. Girls do tend to analyze situations with their girlfriends but not to that extent, we won't let it take up our whole time together and let it get to us. The yes and yeah is true too because we do tend to misunderstand the way someone might have meant to say it a text and then over think it. For the guys part, it seemed pretty legit, although I am sure that there are some guys that may show some more emotion than that, I don't think there that closed up. At the end of the video, regardless if it was exaggerated or not it still taught me a lot because it showed communication is key and that it can be misinterpreted a lot of times.
ReplyDeletedidn’t realize that us, girls, acted that way sometimes until I watch this video three times. This is very funny. I could say that my favorite part of this series is when Chris texted Rebecca, "are you mad at me or something?" and she didn't respond....for 5 minutes!!! : Oh is she dead?! Should we call the police???? Loll. I had a great laugh, but the boys try to be girls is Exaggerated. I am a girl, and I don’t think that we over analyze things like there is a big difference between “yes” and “yeah”, but if the guys didn’t play the act this way, this videos wouldn’t be comical nor make sense. When it comes to the girls try to be boys, I think they could have done much better if they included sport, sex, and bro in their conversation instead of a comfort hug. They girls weren’t that funny; they had the attitude pretty down and I think this is why Boys part funnier because they have more to say about us….. Congrats to them I couldn’t ask for a better play to laugh..
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